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Gayest & Greatest 2020: Health and Beauty Part II

Nurse Kandice Webber has worked tirelessly to heal COVID-19 patients.

Zach McKenzie October 2, 2020

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Kandice Webber is this year’s Favorite Female Nurse (courtesy photo).

There has always been a consensus about how courageous nurses are. Throw a pandemic into the equation, and suddenly the world comes to a halt as we all watch footage of these heroes on the front lines of a global health crisis. Nurses like Kandice Webber, this year’s Favorite Female Nurse, are now sacrificing more than they ever imagined when they took the Hippocratic Oath.

“I have been a nurse for almost 20 years. I’ve never seen a disease like COVID,” Webber says. “It is brutal and unrelenting. It is unpredictable, and it kills.” This sentiment is telling, given that Webber is a critical-care nurse specializing in medical intensive care. “The patients I care for have a multitude of disease processes that culminate in life-threatening illnesses.”

Webber understands that her choice to become a nurse comes with a particular amount of emotional challenges and sacrifices. “I’ve cared for nurses who contracted COVID [while] working in the same hospital I work in, and I have had to watch some of them die,” the selfless medical professional says. “I know that I could be one of those frontline healthcare workers who dies caring for strangers. That is a sobering feeling.”

The toll that the pandemic has had on nurses like Webber is clear, both professionally and personally. “I am separated from my family because of the dangers of spreading this virus to them. I miss my wife and children,” she says. “My youngest child is only 18 months old. I’ve been away from her for a third of her life.”

Through technology, she is able to keep in touch with them. “My wife sends me videos and pictures every day. We FaceTime a lot. One of my greatest fears was that my baby wouldn’t feel a bond between us because I’ve been away from her for so long.”

The lead organizer of Black Lives Matter Houston recognizes how important it is to be an out nurse. “Representation matters. Most people who die of COVID die alone. Their families can’t be with them, and the last thing they need is to have some nurse or doctor [prohibit an LGBTQ partner from contacting them via] calls or video chats.”

Webber remembers a gay patient who was dying of the disease, and his partner kept trying to get information about his prognosis, to no avail. “The doctors kept blowing him off,” she recalls. She had to fight for his partner and explain that he has loved the patient for almost 30 years. “I reminded them that we provide care. We don’t pass judgment about our patients’ families or who they share love with.”

Webber took the initiative and contacted the patient’s partner. “I let him use my phone to FaceTime. He died three days after that call. I sat in his room and held his hand as he transitioned, and then I called his partner to let him know that he had passed, but he wasn’t alone. I was there with him. I will never forget them.”

Having worked in New York, New Jersey, Pennsylvania, and Texas during the pandemic, this brave and compassionate nurse continues to face danger and uncertainty every day while providing top-notch care to her patients, all while maintaining a semblance of family life when she isn’t in her surgical scrubs. “I’m incredibly grateful for my wife, because she prioritizes my communication with our little one. Those of us on the front lines are making unbelievable sacrifices.”

For more information on Black Lives Matter Houston, visit blmhouston.com.